Well said! I agree. Buck up, buttercup. Don't let the bastards get you down. Right? The fact that those in need of fodder for an episode of Oprah (dated and off air, don't judge!) have pushed "self care" for women to make them think they are weak and deserve a bath bomb just makes me SMH. I am a strong woman and have lived a different life, but I am finding out what really gives me joy. I consider that a super accomplishment. Hubs has worked as an electrical engineer on the Bering for the last 27 years and I have had to live alone and raise our children solo for many moons. But, the kids and I and Hubs made it through. We have raised 2 amazing humans and I consider them of far greater value than a pension from a job. I left a career in advertising and marketing to stay at home. They were my job and now they are our best friends. Living this life, it never entered my mind that I had the choice to "be weak". Yeah, I am anything but that! Fierce. Self care is another word for boundaries. I enjoy cooking a great meal and setting a beautiful table and having my household things around me that I love. Self care is also not eating a box of donuts when Hubs leaves for work for 3 months because I deserve it. No. I deserve the massage that now takes the place of those donuts because I lost the 65 lbs by eating right...(not cricket flour cake). So, there! Haha...you got me started this morning with this one. Thanks!
Thank you for this, Sadie! You and I think alike in so many ways, it's uncanny. I can't imagine what it would be like to raise the kids being alone most of the time. Heck, I didn't like it when my husband was gone for work during the day when the kids were little! But, I am also strong and 'fierce' as you say, when I need to be and have fixed kitchen cabinets, door locks and a variety of other things. Were these things I relished doing? Heck no! As you said, while I CAN do these things, I'm not really built for it at all. Staying home and raising kids takes strength, especially because other women often scorn women like us. I was lucky to be a homeschool mom surrounded by a tightly knit group of like-minded women, so was usually insulated from that kind of thing.
Congratulations on the weight loss! I know that can be so difficult for people and, it seems, especially for women. Haha cricket flour cake. Hard pass on that one!
Aren’t self-care and spiritual care one in the same? What we do to our bodies is reflected in our spiritual health and what we do to grow in our spiritual awareness is reflected in our resilience and physical strength to endure the hardships we face.
After a long hard week comes – Miller Time. “Miller Time” is some kind of hypothetical time, floating free outside the continuum of normal time, in which the constraints of normal morality do not apply. Miller Time is accrued from the demands of work and study, and is indeed a time for indulging the self. Yet that “self” is hypothetical, and like the complex, imaginary, time of speculative physics, is a mythical chimera, that does not truly exist.
The myth of the self derives from Descartes and is the basis for modern transgender confusion. There is no separate, distinct, free floating self, outside of reality and morality. And there is no mechanism to “escape the chaos of everyday life” into self-care.
The faculty would be delighted, I’m sure. I found Dr. Smith’s “Understanding Modern Political Ideas” very helpful for understanding such as Neo-Marxism and Technocracy. Thank you for your writing.
Thank you, Antonia, you’re correct! All self-care (as it is taken in this day) is self-indulgence. You are also correct when you say it’s true impoverishment. Thank you again for reading and taking the time to comment.
I agree wholeheartedly. Plus, I don’t think men need anyone to tell them it’s time for a short sabbatical from the stresses of a particular day or week.
My husband goes hunting. <He won’t let me tag along because he “claims” I would whisper-talk too much. Haha> Anyway, he doesn’t call it “self-care”. He calls it...hunting!
When he works on a project in his garage (yes, it’s HIS) with “DJ Sura” on the TV...it’s not self-care.
But, these and other time he takes for himself is actually what self-care is. Incidentally, the garage projects, the hunting -- all those things are actually things he does for others. Pouring oneself out for others is healing and fulfilling.
So what I’m trying to say is that getting a manicure, my hair done, etc., is a treat and it’s for me. It’s NOT self-care.
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I’m fairly new here, so don’t have a lot of engagement yet.
Good work.
Relax, you deserve it.
Have some "me time."
Oh, wait . . .
Thanks Peregrinus.
Well said! I agree. Buck up, buttercup. Don't let the bastards get you down. Right? The fact that those in need of fodder for an episode of Oprah (dated and off air, don't judge!) have pushed "self care" for women to make them think they are weak and deserve a bath bomb just makes me SMH. I am a strong woman and have lived a different life, but I am finding out what really gives me joy. I consider that a super accomplishment. Hubs has worked as an electrical engineer on the Bering for the last 27 years and I have had to live alone and raise our children solo for many moons. But, the kids and I and Hubs made it through. We have raised 2 amazing humans and I consider them of far greater value than a pension from a job. I left a career in advertising and marketing to stay at home. They were my job and now they are our best friends. Living this life, it never entered my mind that I had the choice to "be weak". Yeah, I am anything but that! Fierce. Self care is another word for boundaries. I enjoy cooking a great meal and setting a beautiful table and having my household things around me that I love. Self care is also not eating a box of donuts when Hubs leaves for work for 3 months because I deserve it. No. I deserve the massage that now takes the place of those donuts because I lost the 65 lbs by eating right...(not cricket flour cake). So, there! Haha...you got me started this morning with this one. Thanks!
Thank you for this, Sadie! You and I think alike in so many ways, it's uncanny. I can't imagine what it would be like to raise the kids being alone most of the time. Heck, I didn't like it when my husband was gone for work during the day when the kids were little! But, I am also strong and 'fierce' as you say, when I need to be and have fixed kitchen cabinets, door locks and a variety of other things. Were these things I relished doing? Heck no! As you said, while I CAN do these things, I'm not really built for it at all. Staying home and raising kids takes strength, especially because other women often scorn women like us. I was lucky to be a homeschool mom surrounded by a tightly knit group of like-minded women, so was usually insulated from that kind of thing.
Congratulations on the weight loss! I know that can be so difficult for people and, it seems, especially for women. Haha cricket flour cake. Hard pass on that one!
Here is to us!♥
Cheers! 🥂
Self care should not take the place of spiritual care. I think that’s where most people go wrong.
Aren’t self-care and spiritual care one in the same? What we do to our bodies is reflected in our spiritual health and what we do to grow in our spiritual awareness is reflected in our resilience and physical strength to endure the hardships we face.
Yes you are absolutely correct!
Wait. Texas DS...? Is this who I think it is?
After a long hard week comes – Miller Time. “Miller Time” is some kind of hypothetical time, floating free outside the continuum of normal time, in which the constraints of normal morality do not apply. Miller Time is accrued from the demands of work and study, and is indeed a time for indulging the self. Yet that “self” is hypothetical, and like the complex, imaginary, time of speculative physics, is a mythical chimera, that does not truly exist.
The myth of the self derives from Descartes and is the basis for modern transgender confusion. There is no separate, distinct, free floating self, outside of reality and morality. And there is no mechanism to “escape the chaos of everyday life” into self-care.
Thank your for your post!
https://catholicstudiesacademy.com/the-myth-of-self-2/
https://catholicstudiesacademy.com/the-myth-of-selfpart-ii/
https://catholicstudiesacademy.com/the-myth-of-self-3/
https://soundcloud.com/user-988487977/the-myth-of-self
Also, I’m just getting around to reading these links. They’re AMAZING. Is it alright if I share some of them?
The faculty would be delighted, I’m sure. I found Dr. Smith’s “Understanding Modern Political Ideas” very helpful for understanding such as Neo-Marxism and Technocracy. Thank you for your writing.
https://catholicstudiesacademy.com/books/
Thanks John! Checking it out now.
💗💗💗🙏🏻 Thank you for this!
Spot on! Indulgences, really is that all that is left. THAT is true impoverishment.
Thank you, Antonia, you’re correct! All self-care (as it is taken in this day) is self-indulgence. You are also correct when you say it’s true impoverishment. Thank you again for reading and taking the time to comment.
I agree wholeheartedly. Plus, I don’t think men need anyone to tell them it’s time for a short sabbatical from the stresses of a particular day or week.
My husband goes hunting. <He won’t let me tag along because he “claims” I would whisper-talk too much. Haha> Anyway, he doesn’t call it “self-care”. He calls it...hunting!
When he works on a project in his garage (yes, it’s HIS) with “DJ Sura” on the TV...it’s not self-care.
But, these and other time he takes for himself is actually what self-care is. Incidentally, the garage projects, the hunting -- all those things are actually things he does for others. Pouring oneself out for others is healing and fulfilling.
So what I’m trying to say is that getting a manicure, my hair done, etc., is a treat and it’s for me. It’s NOT self-care.
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I’m fairly new here, so don’t have a lot of engagement yet.